With Fred’s passing, especially because of the timing, happening right now at Christmas. So many people have poured out their prayers and concerns for our family. ”Oh, but during Christmas”… which just happens to be my wife’s birthday. Yeah, it is Christmas day.
It does seem bad doesn’t it. Christmas time.
The first time you do something that your loved one would normally be at with you… but they aren’t there. Gifts around the tree, an empty place setting at dinner, signing happy birthday… these are all hard. This year, we protected ourselves, and didn’t do Christmas as usual. It was a good idea, these scenarios above did not exist. But when you think about it, is there any chance of really putting this off?
Every time you do something for the first time, without that person, it is hard.
I felt like this was a worthy thought for the Daily Sprout, because we all face loss. We all face separation from those we love. It happens with our pets too. When I lost Toby just under two years ago, I felt so much emptiness on Tuesday and Thursday mornings, waking up at 5:30, and instead of finding Toby sleeping on the bathroom floor… just a quiet empty room.
So when we face loss, what to do? Well, the purpose of writing this is to impress upon all of you the importance of community. The importance of the living in the moment when we have lost someone to death.
I believe God has directed us to two great commandments. Love him, and love others. And pretty much everything else works itself out from there. But love who? Others. Who is that? Everybody. You see, there is something that is revealed in our character when we lost a loved one. As we pass through the “first time” moments, we are often alone, or at least feel lonely. But I believe God has provided an opportunity for a stirring within.
A desire to be known, and thus to know someone else. There are 6 billion people on the world, so as we mourn those we have lost, it is now an open door to invite somebody in to help us heal. There will never be another papa to myself, or my kids, or my wife, and definitely not to her mother. But there are plenty of people in our lives right now who want to be that friend who builds a tradition, or at least who shares the stories of our own traditions.
We will all lose someone in our lives, and I guarantee you, if it is ten months from Christmas, Christmas will still be rough when you hit your “first time” experience. But I also guarantee you that the pain will be consolable through people.
Thanks for all of your prayers for myself and the family. Please enjoy this obituary.
Be well and Be blessed – Dr. E
Fred Rolland Galyean Sr., 71, of Woodstock, GA, passed away peacefully on Friday, Dec 23rd, 2016 surrounded by family. Born in Los Angeles California, he lived many years of his life in Tujunga, CA, Lockport NY, Palatine, IL and in 2002 relocated to Woodstock, Ga.
Fred is survived by his wife Sharon of 53 years, son Fred Galyean Jr, daughters Cheryl (Kris) Maher, Laura (Eric) Richards, and loving grandchildren, Brooke & Ansley Richards, Bella & Liam Maher. Fred was a devoted and loving husband, father, grandfather (Papa) and friend to all.
Fred had an unmatched zest for life and gave 100% to everything he pursued. Fred enjoyed a successful career in the food industry and continued to be a highly regarded consultant after he retired. He worked hard and played hard – from race car driving, speed boating, snowmobiling to his love of cheesecake, manhattans and prime rib – he believed in having fun and living life to its fullest. He was very proud of his children and his grandchildren brought him much joy. Most of all, he enjoyed spending time with his best friend and the one he lovingly referred to as his bride and love of his life – his wife Sharon.
A celebration of life will take place at 2pm on Sunday Jan 8, 2016 at Lakeside Funeral home, 121 Claremore Dr. Woodstock, GA. The family will receive friends from 1:00 – 2:00 at Lakeside Funeral Home.